I learned something long ago that might have cut my stress almost in half. Have you ever had a friend, co-worker, or even family member who all of a sudden seemed to fall out of your life. That used to bother me to no end, leaving me wondering if it was something I did. But instead of pointing all of the blame to my self I should have realized that this happens to everyone. Like everything else in the universe people have a certain vibration or frequency that we function on. When we hit it off with someone and become very close with them, that's because in some way we are on the same frequency as them and can relate easily. Kind of like when you are listening to the radio, (analog of course as I show my age) and sometimes you might be a spot that just doesn't get good reception. So we would move the antenna around, lift on leg in the air, and try to anything we could to get better reception to hear it better. Well that's what people often do, we break our own rules of engagement, overlook things that should be addressed. We do whatever we have to do just to try to fit a square peg in a round hole. But the reality is that people change constantly as they must because anything that is not changing is dead. And while we do have control of how our frequency changes most people just wait for an outside source to come along and change them. Unfortunately if your not careful what will change you will be the experience of being a doormat for people in life who are go getters and manipulators. So when someone just falls out of your life without a trace don't blame them, don't get upset, and definitely don't say that you are not the one who changed. Because if you are still alive chances are you did change, and that's OK.